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When Bad Things Happen
Talking to Children About Disasters
One of the key tenets of Runkel's ScreamFree Parenting program is mastering the concept of "Space and Place." That means that you need to give your kids the space to have certain responses, emotions and expressions, yet as the parent, you can be the architect of the "place" in which that child operates.
Most children over the age of 4 will want to talk about the disaster. There are several age-appropriate responses – and remember that maturity may be a better measure than calendar age.
Preschooler: It's important for preschoolers to stick to their routines. They may need extra reassurance or want to sleep in your bed for a night or two. Try to avoid unnecessary separations if you can and encourage them to express how they feel through play and art.
Elementary children: They'll also desire a little extra attention and will find familial routines calming. Be sure to continue to be consistent in your handling of chores and behaviors and encourage their expression of thoughts and feelings through conversations and play.
Adolescents: Listen to them, but don't force them to talk about feelings and emotions. Encourage them to talk among their peers and to participate in physical activities so they can release some of their anxiety.