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Expressions of the Heart

Writing Your Wife a Love Letter After Delivery

By Laura Paul

Although he does not write with a quill on special parchment paper or seal his letters with wax as did 18th century writers, David Faysash from Wesley Chapel, Fla., father to Jack, 3, and Megan, 1, makes a romantic ritual of writing his wife, Kelly, love letters.

Men, who do not typically wear their hearts on their sleeves, find their emotions well up during the birthing experience. "When they brought the baby in, we reflected on the moment and on what a great gift the child was," Faysash says.

Birth memories remain with couples for a lifetime. Writing a romantic love note letting a woman know how strong she was to give birth to your child lingers as dew on flowers. To quote a love letter written by Mark Twain, she will cherish and love the letter as "wavelets love the breeze; as mothers love their firstborn; as memory loves old faces; as the yearning tides love the moon; as the angels love the pure in heart."

After supporting Kelly through more than 24 hours of labor, Faysash sat down and honored the moment by writing her an alluring love note. "When you take the time to do something like that – to compose your thoughts into a letter – it means something special," he says.

After she had rested, he gave her the letter and a gold necklace he bought days earlier. Faysash stayed in the hospital and slept in the room with Kelly. He also kept a journal. "I chronicled the whole experience in the hospital and what an emotion high it was when Jack was born," he says. "I wrote down everything that happened the day Jack was born. It was such an experience watching when he first came out."

Barrie Dolnick, author of How to Write a Love Letter

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