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The Teen Behind the Mean
Cracking the Shell of Today's Tough Teens By Gina Roberts-Grey
Watching an intimidating teen interact with his family, friends and peers may uncover he's feeling left out of certain social situations or he's feeling inadequate. "Offering praise for his assets and talents or encouraging positive outlets and hobbies gives intimidating teens a healthier avenue to channel their energy," says Parrish.
Taking a moment to contemplate what prompts teens to resort to intimidation can be the powerful catalyst to breaking through their protective personas. That one morning I learned our neighbor seems to be struggling with his increasing level of maturity and adult expectations when he muttered, "Must be nice," as he heard my son shout, "Thanks for my breakfast surprise," out the front door. As I casually enquired about what high schoolers eat for breakfast these days, he replied, "Whatever. It's not like anyone makes it for me."
In less than 10 words, I realized there were facets to this young man that still wanted to be nurtured as though he were a young boy. As he slowly ambled onto the bus, he did pause to pick up his soda bottle off of our mailbox. At least now when our neighbor walks across my flowers, he waves or says hello and knows that we understand each other a little better than we did before.