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What a Father Is Worth

The Invaluable Lessons Dads Teach Us

By Gina Roberts-Grey, LCSW

A father's age and life experiences give him an advantage over his children. Share your knowledge, hobbies and worldly expertise with your child. Whether it's teaching your son how to build a pillow fort or teaching your daughter how to make a supreme sub sandwich, there are unlimited options to spend time and build your bond.

Whatever the forum, use the time to set the example you want him to follow. "Being involved is the main objective," says Mazurski. "Too many parents get hung up on planning the perfect outing instead of spending time with their child in 'real life'."

Talk to your child about how you felt the first time you walked into a strange classroom or were up to bat in your first baseball game. Letting him see the human and sensitive aspects of your personality teaches him you're more than the person who works hard to support the family. Showing your vulnerability shows your child that you've faced adversity and had the confidence to overcome your fears.

Whether you're a first time father or seasoned veteran, the most important part of fatherhood to remember is that you are an integral part of your child's life. The investment you make in your child is one that promises to yield a multitude of benefits. You'll both share a lifetime of fond memories. You'll also have the pride in knowing you helped shape your child into a loving and self-confident adult.