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The "Bad Mood" Lifestyle

11 Ways to Turn Yours Around and Create a Powerful New Reality

We all make hundreds of judgments every day and seldom realize they are mostly inaccurate. Learn to let go of your interpretations of and opinions about others, outcomes and especially yourself. This will immediately take you out of the Fear Zone of low-energy choices and expand your possibilities. For example, when someone does not return your call, you probably jump to a single conclusion (He's not interested. She's mad at me. They're too busy to make time for me.). This assumption may lead to a great deal of upset and stress. Next time such an event occurs, instead of leaping to a negative conclusion, imagine at least one more possibility (Their voicemail isn't working. They have a hectic schedule.).

"Suspending judgment stops a downward spiral before it begins, allowing you to make more powerful, and less obvious, choices," Anderson writes. "You'll tap into the Field and experience frequent creative breakthroughs, better one-on-one relationships and less negativity in your life."

Lightening up is the expressway to making the higher-energy choices. Laughter enables you to break away from the intensity and drama of a situation. What's more, it's amazing how people respond when you're playful and in the moment.

In her book, Anderson describes a situation in which she missed a chance to lighten up. She was leading a meeting held in a Mexico resort city and was deserate to make a good impression on the executives in attendance. A midmorning coffee and fruit break had been scheduled. As break time neared, Anderson expected the hotel staff to discreetly begin setting up. Instead, a crash of cymbals rang out, the door flew open and a man in a gorilla suit burst into the room and began passing out bananas.

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